Blog Archives



Do you ever wish you could turn back time? Press rewind on a conversation or a situation?

If you could, how many moments in your life would you redo?

Certainly, the positive moments full of love and care. Moments of regret, when you wish you could handle something differently or when the outcome of a situation doesn’t align with your intentions. It is in those times that we realize, how powerful our actions and words are. So powerful that within a moment they can alter the dynamics of any relationship, personal or professional.

In reality, life keeps humming forward, there are no replays and no rewind buttons. For that reason alone, our response to any situation is vital, therefore teaching yourself to respond versus react to the world around us, is a critical self-management skill.

Few years back, I read a book called the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. One of the very first agreements the author introduces the reader to is “…be impeccable with your word”. Ruiz defines this agreement as “…speak with integrity and say only what you truly mean…” and “…avoid using the word to speak against yourself or others…” Finally he reminds us to “…use the power of your word to speak in the direction of truth and love.”

Unfortunately, as beautiful and simple as it sounds, this agreement is much harder to live to. Most of us are on two opposite ends of the communication spectrum. We either say what we feel immediately without filtering our reply, which is a typical reaction and has been known to quickly escalate to over-reactions. Or we freeze and become paralyzed, not taking any action. We may have grown up with the teaching that it may better to say nothing if you do not have anything nice to say. While the rest of us were raised without a filter and hence do not hold great concern with voicing our thoughts, and their resulting implications. Keep in mind that not addressing an issue, does not mean it goes away. It will remain inside you and overtime will begin to leak out via resentment and frustration which will build, until eventually it will explode and cause an unplanned and likely unhealthy reaction.

Having no filter, or being “brutally” honest on the other hand, may feel freeing. It may make you feel proud of your ability to “tell it like it is”. Some people have likely complimented you on your courage to not hold back in “telling the truth”. However the reality is this; it is still a reaction, a first impulse that breeds from your feelings toward the situation or person. And by the way, those feelings are YOUR truth, not THE truth. It is your perspective which exists from the lens only you, alone, view the world through.

So here is MY truth.

Somewhere out there lies an invisible line that teeters in between saying too much and not saying enough. If we give ourselves time to respond to a situation versus reacting to it by shutting down or not shutting up, then we can be more deliberate with our messaging. Emotions will always create a haze over any situation. When you acknowledge this and give yourself time for the haze to pass, clarity will come. I am not saying by any means that we should lose our sense of urgency when time is of essence. Just remember that when running the race, you may have to slow down and pace yourself a bit, so that you can get your sense of direction back…..and still get to the finish line which you initially set out to reach.

Since life does not come with a rewind option, let’s make the most of each moment we are presented with. Let’s acknowledge that how each of us behaves, the words we use to communicate have a powerful impact. Don’t you want certainty that your actions are in alignment with your intentions?

In closing, we can all use a little reminder to be deliberate in our behaviors, to be aware of our actions and impeccable with the words we put out into the universe. After all, who does not want the world around them to hum in harmony with their true intentions?



I recently deactivated my Facebook. Honestly, I don’t know if I will ever return. I was loyal to Facebook since 2007. Oh yes, I enjoyed watching the lives of my friends, some old…some new. It was fun, I thought. The lives of my online friends took a life of their own. I knew where they ate, how often they traveled, and all the fun they had. Mostly, I saw how blessed they said they felt. How IMPORTANT it was for them to share how blessed and fortunate they were with others. Don’t get me wrong, I miss some of my online friends. Watching their kids grow up, watching their lives unfold as distance and the daily craziness of life kept us apart from sharing these joys in real life. Recently, though, I learned a valuable lesson. I believe I already knew it deep inside, but then it was as if the fog lifted and I saw clearly through the clouds. People show you only what they want you to see. Most people want you to believe their lives are fabulous, close to perfection, pure happiness and joy. People love Facebook because it gives them full control to paint their lives as they want others to see them. And then the likes and the comments start coming…the more the better, just reinforcing the need for reassurance that their life IS fabulous. It is not hard to tell who these folks are.  Maybe at one point I had those moments too. Then I had a hard lesson taught to me. I learned that some people will go to an elaborate extent to show how fortunate they are. But you know what? For some of these people, it just is not real. It’s a way to make themselves feel better about themselves. A way to say “Look world! I AM HAPPY! I have everything I could ever want! My life is perfect!”

NEWSFLASH – no one person’s life is perfect. And if you have to make a point to say it so much, it certainly is not. People have joy and sadness, pain, hurt and happiness. They have moments. Moments of experiences that elicit feelings of joy, fulfillment and fortune. Is that real life 100% of the time? How often do we hear people say they just want to be happy, that they just want to be fulfilled. Yet, how can you be happy and fulfilled if you have not experienced the opposite; the duality of life? Life is balance. Yin and yang, light and dark, male and female. So goes the same for emotions. How can you ever truly experience true joy and happiness if you have not felt deep pain and suffering? How can life be in balance if the experience of the duality is not equal? Some people have an abundance of one or the other. Those, for example, who have everything they want in life handed to them, take it for granted unless they have felt the depth of the opposite. Success? How does one even know and comprehend what success is without failure? Maybe in theory, but not in reality. People have shared with me that Facebook makes them feel bad about themselves. They see the good fortunes of others and feel sad, lonely, empty…because they don’t have the same fortunes of fulfillment as others make a point to show off.

So my friends, don’t be fooled. A story is a story. A good story is meant to elicit emotions. Facebook is about storytelling. In short snippets, photos and emoticons. Ultimately, it is still just a story. 

Blogging speaks to me, because the people on here share joy and they share pain. They contemplate life, success and pick apart the many facets of life for what they truly are. So I thank my new community for giving me an outlet. An outlet to be real and sincere. Most importantly, I learned a valuable lesson…people will show you only what they want you to see. They will show you what they want to be, not necessarily what they actually are. Their lives in real life are much different than on Facebook. They all have their personal demons to fight, as all of us do. We are all imperfect, but that is what being human means. Experiencing the duality of emotions so when we do have moments of peace, joy and success….we can truly honor and appreciate the intensity and realness. YOU and your life IS beautiful, with all the opposites, the variances, the dualities of emotions and experiences…because it’s real, because it’s LIFE. So live it – out there – amongst the elements, amongst reality. Don’t ever, EVER forget that.


A great site

Don Charisma

because anything is possible with Charisma

Virgilio is on a quiet journey...and wondering...

"In my end is my beginning" ~ T.S. Eliot

Randa Adam

On The Road

Psychic Lynda Lee

Readings With A Naturally Gifted Intuitive

Messages in the Sand

Channeled messages

Reiki With Friends

My journey to mutually enrich our spiritual experience!

Blog at Books by Helena

by Helena Kalivoda

We are all going to die one day

Why don't we talk about it?

2 golden birds (Run by Julia Yusupova)

Lifestyle of an Unconventional Thinker and an Unconditional Lover

Yogis Anonymous Blog

More than just yoga videos. Your practice, off the mat.

Misery Teacher

A resource for living a less miserable, more meaningful life


A great site

Soft notions and verses

Whispering words


for all the art lovers needs and angelic advise given through humble prayers

Totally Inspired Mind

Where Positive Minds Congregate and Beautiful Souls Shine

The Zombie Squad Elite

Gear to Survive the Zombie Apocalypse

Health Room

HERO Living | Healthy Habits | Mindful Movement

%d bloggers like this: